Haircuts are Good for the Soul
I have often found that when I am really stressed and things feel out of control I need to change my hair. At first I thought that was silly, but anymore, I don't think it is. If my choices are hurt myself to feel like I have some tiny bit of control...or change my hair...obviously I should change my hair. Down side...it has now gotten quite short. So you guessed it, I shaved half of it and died it blonde. If you want to see you can check out my instagram (Shurri88)
I know that cutting my hair doesn't solve my problems or really fix anything, but there is something to be said for improved confidence. I made a joke about this new look making me maybe look more like a lesbian and less like a guy. My plan didn't quite work. Still getting called sir or lumped in with the guys.
My favorite reaction to me was last Saturday morning at brunch. My friend and I went up to the cashier. We were having them split the bill. The girl who started the transaction but was passing it on to the actual cashier, looked at my friend telling the cashier that she was paying with cash, then she looked at me. Her eyes went up and down and she completely froze. I felt like my presence broke her. Eventually the cashier saved her and looked at me saying, "Card?" It is weird to feel like my general being confuses people.
At work I had almost the opposite reaction. Most people liked it a lot, but one co-worker that I do not know well and have maybe only talked to a couple of times looked at me and said that he liked my hair cut. I said thanks and feeling like chatting a little told him that I was trying to look more like the comic version of Captain Marvel. He smiled and said that he thought I was nailing it, he added that I was pulling off a non-binary look really well. I admit I was so happy that someone thought that. I just said thanks and hope that I sounded sincere.
It is funny how much a haircut can change how you're feeling. As I cut mine shorter and shorter I really began to feel more like myself. It is also just nice to change something that is not permanent. That is, I have and love my tattoos, but probably for the best I don't just get a new one every time I am having a rough time.
Anyway, I just think if you need a change, go for a new do. Never know, might love it. If you hate it, change it again, worst case, it almost always grows back. ;) Feel free to share your favorite hairstyles.
Looking good,
Sharebear
P.S.
Funny hair comic (credit Aggro-Gator.com)
Where Cowlicks Come From
I know that cutting my hair doesn't solve my problems or really fix anything, but there is something to be said for improved confidence. I made a joke about this new look making me maybe look more like a lesbian and less like a guy. My plan didn't quite work. Still getting called sir or lumped in with the guys.
My favorite reaction to me was last Saturday morning at brunch. My friend and I went up to the cashier. We were having them split the bill. The girl who started the transaction but was passing it on to the actual cashier, looked at my friend telling the cashier that she was paying with cash, then she looked at me. Her eyes went up and down and she completely froze. I felt like my presence broke her. Eventually the cashier saved her and looked at me saying, "Card?" It is weird to feel like my general being confuses people.
At work I had almost the opposite reaction. Most people liked it a lot, but one co-worker that I do not know well and have maybe only talked to a couple of times looked at me and said that he liked my hair cut. I said thanks and feeling like chatting a little told him that I was trying to look more like the comic version of Captain Marvel. He smiled and said that he thought I was nailing it, he added that I was pulling off a non-binary look really well. I admit I was so happy that someone thought that. I just said thanks and hope that I sounded sincere.
It is funny how much a haircut can change how you're feeling. As I cut mine shorter and shorter I really began to feel more like myself. It is also just nice to change something that is not permanent. That is, I have and love my tattoos, but probably for the best I don't just get a new one every time I am having a rough time.
Anyway, I just think if you need a change, go for a new do. Never know, might love it. If you hate it, change it again, worst case, it almost always grows back. ;) Feel free to share your favorite hairstyles.
Looking good,
Sharebear
P.S.
Funny hair comic (credit Aggro-Gator.com)
Where Cowlicks Come From
Very interesting to read this. I have done the same things multiple times in my life. Cut or color or something crazy with my hair, improves my mood and makes me feel like I have control!
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